GOTHIC LOVE

Love is the heart of this life we share ,not just the portrayed emotional style as commonly understood , it encompasses fire and passion and darkness a truly individualistic theatre of expession .commitment and understanding.

Embracing life ,love and death.Without the need to compete with the trends of socially accepted behaviour , its a freedom to connect with great minds and spirits.

Embracing the lover is like embracing a temporary death of ego..there is no ego in love.It is not only the opening curtain ,it is the closing one as well..And after the curtain is closed there are no bows in front of an inexistent audience..It is only you and me.Love is stripping me from the social barriers following me every day..It is my day time me..My night time me can handle a chocker in my neck..My night time me is diving into dark deep seas of the unknown i have never ever seen in you..My night time Me can die in your love and resurrect at the same time.You might wonder if this is really me..you might not even like it..But that is my goth dark side than i am hiding behind a socially compatible outfit during the day time..

During night time i do not feel the need to be compatible to any social model..it is just me in front of me and you..there is nothing that could ever make me pretend i am somebody else..It is not the underwear..it is not the sexy pose i might achieve..it is not the ambient..It is just me and what lies in my eyes when i look at you..

You were wondering if i had a gothic heart seeing me dressed up in jeans..Did you really think that the outfit is representing the soul’s desires?Did you ever think that even while i am cooking i am just a mum?

Well,here are some news for you! Mums are double facd..self conscious mums..i am not dressing up my business identity or my family one..I am always saving some moments of my day just to set free the What-I-Am-Inside factor..Otherwise it will kill me

Yes,deep down i am so dark i am wondering if you can even handle it..Because you never told me if you did

If i hide this side of me,there will be no me at all,don’t take it away from me..just act as you should,embrace me with your death and resurrect me at the same time.

It is absolute Zero i am trying to find..Absolute darkness ..Just to make out something out of the dark Nothing

Here you can find articles and reviews regarding the goth lifestyle and dark destinations, Cyber Compendium UK Home

Here you can find articles and reviews regarding the goth lifestyle and dark destinations, Cyber Compendium UK Home

GOTHIC HOMESTYLE

An X-chair (also scissors chair, Dante chair, or Savonarola chair) is a chair with X-shaped frame. It was known in Ancient Egypt, Rome, and Greece.
History

A type of folding chair with a frame like an X viewed from the front or the side originated in medieval Italy. Also known as a Savonarola or Dante chair in Italy, or a Luther chair in Germany, the X-chair was a light and practical form that spread through Renaissance Europe. In England, the Glastonbury chair made an X-shape by crossing the front and back legs, while in Spain X-chairs were inlaid with ivory and metals in the Moorish designs.

The use of the name Savonarola chair comes from a nineteenth-century trade term evoking Girolamo Savonarola, is a folding armchair of the type standardized during the Italian Renaissance.

The chair in the illustration consists of a wooden flat-arched back rail carved with a coat-of-arms in low relief, and connected to the back of the straight arms of the chair and a seat made of narrowly-fitted wooden slats. The wood used in construction of the chair is the typical walnut, as in other gothic and renaissance furniture.
                                                            

 Renaisance gothic is a style that flourished in the late 1800's through the early 1900's ,its most famous prodigy is the bauhaus ,which came of age in the twenties and was a great success untill the emergence of the third reich in the midle to late thirties,when most of its artists moved to either england or the u.s.
                                                     
                                                                    

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The deepest Question:Why are we blogging besides of monetizing?

Allow me to speak just for myself.

I always wanted to live in this dark spooky ambient of an old castle or just a plain house but i  don't think my children would react that good,granted they are already acting like tiny goths:-p

Having black flowers in the garden instead of all those colorfull ones seems to me quite natural but as a mother i think i made a big mistake..i thought that gothic genes are not showing up in the next generation,so yes,my children love black,they love the weird decoration of our house,they love the music I listen to.

Many times i have wondered if I myself have placed them already at the margin of the society ,as happened to me,but after six years i had to reconsider and accept the fact that a goth's child will always see the dark side of things.

Will always see ghosts everywhere..maybe pick the darkest colors to paint instead of pink or orange(the sunny ones),maybe be the center of the discussions between its school mates..

Maybe this child will be playing apart from the rest building castles with ghosts...and never getting alarmed by mother's creepy statues or masks hanging on the wall.

The last item that i hung from an arch in our new house was a couple of puppets from Indonesia..Unconsciouscly i placed the nail on the stairway arch and placed both the male and female figurines back to back,and rewinding,the male one had the Ninth Gate movie hanging position.I walked away happy as a clam.....

The other day my children were coming down the stairs and they asked me normally if they had  hanged themselves.....

Alarmed?No,i wasn't..Surprised yes by seeing two little reflections of myself

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This is probably the deepest reason of having 8 blogs by now sharing information with you for your peace of mind.

Take a look at this New Scientist's Article i happened to browse..Our children are more safe

Goth subculture may protect vulnerable children

• 00:01 14 April 2006 by Gaia Vince
• For similar stories, visit the Teenagers Topic Guide

About half of teenage goths have deliberately harmed themselves or attempted suicide, a new study suggests. But joining the modern subculture - which grew out of the 1980s gothic rock scene - may actually protect vulnerable children, researchers say.

The study followed 1258 young people who were interviewed at ages 11, 13, 15 and 19. It found that of those who considered themselves goths, 53% had self-harmed and 47% had tried to commit suicide. The average prevalence of self-harm among young people in the UK is 7% to 14%. Self-harm includes behaviours such as cutting or burning oneself. And about 6% of young people admit suicide attempts. Some studies suggest the incidence is rising in society.

Researchers at University of Glasgow found that while most self-harmers started the practice at age 12 to 13, they did not become goths until they were a couple of years older, on average.

"One common suggestion is they may be copying subcultural icons or peers [when they self-harm], but our study found that more young people reported self-harm before, rather than after, becoming a goth. This suggests that young people with a tendency to self-harm are attracted to the goth subculture," says Robert Young, who led the study.

Quick fix

"Rather than posing a risk, it's also possible that by belonging to the goth subculture, young people are gaining valuable social and emotional support from their peers." But he cautions: "However, the study was based on small numbers and replication is needed to confirm our results." Only 25 participants felt strongly associated with goth culture.

Self-harming, Young says, is a behaviour that people often employ as a mechanism to deal with negative emotions. "It may be used as a quick-fix. "Some physiological studies suggest, or are compatible with the theory that endorphins [brain chemicals that produce a feeling of well-being] are released after episodes of self-harm," he told New Scientist.

Just 2% of the adolescents in the study identified with goth culture, although 8% said they had identified with it at some point in their lives. But it is a strongly non-violent and accepting subculture, which teens may find offers a supportive environment.

Michael van Beinum, a psychiatrist for children and adolescents, who advised on the study, agrees: "For some young people with mental health problems, a goth subculture may be attractive as it may allow them to find a community within which it may be easier for their distress to be understood."

The 1980s goth culture grew out of the post-Punk movement and underwent a revival in the mid-1990s. Central to goth belief is the black aesthetic - taking icons that society regards as evil, such as skull imagery, and making them beautiful.

All about Gothic Shoes

Winklepickers (also known as Winkle Pickers) are a style of shoe or boot worn from the 1950s onward by male and female British rock and roll fans. The feature which gives both the boot and shoe their name is the very sharp and quite long pointed toe, reminiscent of medieval footwear and approximately the same as the long pointed toes on some women's high fashion shoes and boots in the late 2000s. The pointed toe was called the winkle picker toe because in England periwinkle snails or winkles are or were a popular seaside snack, which is eaten using a pin or other pointed object to carefully extract the soft parts out of the coiled shell, hence the phrase: "to winkle something out", and from that, winkle-pickers as a humorous name for shoes with a very pointed tip.

Combat boots are military boots designed to be worn by soldiers during actual combat or combat training as opposed to during parades and other ceremonial duties. Modern combat boots are designed to provide a combination of grip, ankle stability, and foot protection suitable to a rugged environment. They are traditionally made of hardened, and sometimes waterproofed leather. Today, many combat boots incorporate many technologies originating in civilian hiking boots, such as Gore-Tex nylonThey are also often specialized for certain climates and conditions, such as jungle boots, desert boots, and cold weather boots as well as specific uses, such as tanker bootsjump boots side panels, which improve ventilation and comfort. and

Gothabilly is one of several music and cultural subgenres of rockabilly. The name is a portmanteau word that combines gothic and rockabilly. The earliest known use of the word gothabilly was by The Cramps in the late 1970s, to describe their blend of somber, rockabilly-influenced punk rock.Since then the term has come to describe a fashion and music trend that bridges both the gothic and rockabilly subcultures.

Gothabilly style is a tongue-in-cheek play on 1950s-inspired kitsch aesthetics of the rockabilly subculture, but with a dark gothic influence, blending retro rock and roll fashions with the somber features of goth.Bands such as The Cramps were more influential as visual icons and stylistic archetypes than for their musical contribution to the gothabilly genre.

The gothabilly wardrobe incorporates some style elements from the retro culture revival, including: stylized flames, 50's tattoo imagery, animal prints, creeper shoes, cherry accessories and ubiquitous polka dot clothes, pencil skirts, fishnet stockings and high heels, all popular in both the rockabilly and psychobilly scenes.The goth influence can be seen in the softer textures of black silks, satins, lace and velvet, corsets, top hats, antique jewelry, PVC, and leather.

Gothabilly fashion may also include country-western elements such as cowboy boots and hats, handkerchiefs, bolo ties, western shirts, mourning coats and dusters.^] In the mid-1980s Fields of the Nephilim and The Gothic Cowboys wore dusty western ware while delivering haunting and melodic songs inspired by spaghetti westerns.

Gothabilly hairstyles can range from long to bold and may include pompadours, quiffs, Bettie Page-style "Bettie Bangs", the 1950s housewives Middy, updo's such as Victory Rolls, 1940s curled quavers, rat’s nests, and the psychobilly wedge

Creating a Gothic Hairstyle

Gothic hairstyles are not mainstream and are very hard to find in the public eye. Goth hair represents an ideal that is not in the public mainstream and many people are not sure what it is. To first have a Gothic hairstyles, you should definitely know what it is. First of all, Goth hair is not the same as punk girl hair and its not hairstyle that Elvira has either. It very well could be described as a combination of the two, punk and Elvira dark. Gothic hairstyles are not much different from regular hairstyles except they are designed to send a message that is very different. Gothic hairstyles represent something not mainstream, not easily understood, dark and mysterious, and even spiritual. Gothic hairstyles resources There are not too many resources for Gothic hair on the net except maybe your occasional costume photos. The few sources out there do not provide many photos. The few sources for goth hair include old pictures of those goths from the past, a few websites dedicated to the Goth culture, and of course some music bands that bring a touch of Goth with them. Evanescence's lead vocalist Amy Lee probably comes closest to having a Goth hairstyle in mainstream public. Creating Gothic hairstyles from Non Goth hair So you have hair that is not Gothic but you want a Gothic hairstyle huh. Well here are some tips that may help you out. Goth hair is usually not one tone unless it is black, which most dominantly is favored. If you don't prefer black use of other colors like red, some purple, and even faded blonde is ok. There are two main Gothic hairstyles and then there are those that go wild. It is best to choose which one best fits you and one that you can play around with to give you different looks. The first is long flowing hair that just flows down with strands going anywhere they want. The second is high, poofy hair that is made to float around the head. These are probably to two most popular styles. Other ones include the wild ones that are made into different shapes such has horns and other objects. There is also sleek gothic for those who are on the other end of the spectrum but want a gothic hairstyle. This version the hair is sleek, and usually presented in a lighter type setting. There are actually a lot of gothic hairstyles to choose from.

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RESONATE

Your love for me restores my life
it resonates
touching my very core

to describe this feeling with
accuracy is a lifelong quest
as love has many shifting veils
like winds and oceans

each day i find 
us closer in ways 
that make this distance
harder 

it feels like
desperation
a thirst that's unfulfilled

i talk with you for hours
even when you're gone

my head is full 
of conversations and
heat we've yet to share

my body shivers all day
because of you


i came today 
thinking of us
having wild dirty sex

but you were'nt there to feel me 
or hear me
on camera or phone


it felt great to come in you
but without you it sucked 
and i felt so fucking lonely.

Gothicism Links and products for this week(X-Rated)

So if you decided that your outfit is creating your innergothic style,i will not convince you for the opposite.In fact let me help you out!

Suggested outfit for the week. Corsets,outfits,whatever you might need to be a gother!

Accesorize yourself according to your feelings Crosses,Pendans,accessories etc

Shoes,belts and all you need to give the final touch to your outfit feeling gothic?

Underwear....feeling more gothic?

Intimacy.....feeling like playing games?


Ambient...goth ambient music

Items ....to create your personal goth space

And from your beloved gother........... some suggestions for gifts..for the night after;)

Enjoy your night!

Goth clips

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