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The deepest Question:Why are we blogging besides of monetizing?

Allow me to speak just for myself.

I always wanted to live in this dark spooky ambient of an old castle or just a plain house but i  don't think my children would react that good,granted they are already acting like tiny goths:-p

Having black flowers in the garden instead of all those colorfull ones seems to me quite natural but as a mother i think i made a big mistake..i thought that gothic genes are not showing up in the next generation,so yes,my children love black,they love the weird decoration of our house,they love the music I listen to.

Many times i have wondered if I myself have placed them already at the margin of the society ,as happened to me,but after six years i had to reconsider and accept the fact that a goth's child will always see the dark side of things.

Will always see ghosts everywhere..maybe pick the darkest colors to paint instead of pink or orange(the sunny ones),maybe be the center of the discussions between its school mates..

Maybe this child will be playing apart from the rest building castles with ghosts...and never getting alarmed by mother's creepy statues or masks hanging on the wall.

The last item that i hung from an arch in our new house was a couple of puppets from Indonesia..Unconsciouscly i placed the nail on the stairway arch and placed both the male and female figurines back to back,and rewinding,the male one had the Ninth Gate movie hanging position.I walked away happy as a clam.....

The other day my children were coming down the stairs and they asked me normally if they had  hanged themselves.....

Alarmed?No,i wasn't..Surprised yes by seeing two little reflections of myself

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This is probably the deepest reason of having 8 blogs by now sharing information with you for your peace of mind.

Take a look at this New Scientist's Article i happened to browse..Our children are more safe

Goth subculture may protect vulnerable children

• 00:01 14 April 2006 by Gaia Vince
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About half of teenage goths have deliberately harmed themselves or attempted suicide, a new study suggests. But joining the modern subculture - which grew out of the 1980s gothic rock scene - may actually protect vulnerable children, researchers say.

The study followed 1258 young people who were interviewed at ages 11, 13, 15 and 19. It found that of those who considered themselves goths, 53% had self-harmed and 47% had tried to commit suicide. The average prevalence of self-harm among young people in the UK is 7% to 14%. Self-harm includes behaviours such as cutting or burning oneself. And about 6% of young people admit suicide attempts. Some studies suggest the incidence is rising in society.

Researchers at University of Glasgow found that while most self-harmers started the practice at age 12 to 13, they did not become goths until they were a couple of years older, on average.

"One common suggestion is they may be copying subcultural icons or peers [when they self-harm], but our study found that more young people reported self-harm before, rather than after, becoming a goth. This suggests that young people with a tendency to self-harm are attracted to the goth subculture," says Robert Young, who led the study.

Quick fix

"Rather than posing a risk, it's also possible that by belonging to the goth subculture, young people are gaining valuable social and emotional support from their peers." But he cautions: "However, the study was based on small numbers and replication is needed to confirm our results." Only 25 participants felt strongly associated with goth culture.

Self-harming, Young says, is a behaviour that people often employ as a mechanism to deal with negative emotions. "It may be used as a quick-fix. "Some physiological studies suggest, or are compatible with the theory that endorphins [brain chemicals that produce a feeling of well-being] are released after episodes of self-harm," he told New Scientist.

Just 2% of the adolescents in the study identified with goth culture, although 8% said they had identified with it at some point in their lives. But it is a strongly non-violent and accepting subculture, which teens may find offers a supportive environment.

Michael van Beinum, a psychiatrist for children and adolescents, who advised on the study, agrees: "For some young people with mental health problems, a goth subculture may be attractive as it may allow them to find a community within which it may be easier for their distress to be understood."

The 1980s goth culture grew out of the post-Punk movement and underwent a revival in the mid-1990s. Central to goth belief is the black aesthetic - taking icons that society regards as evil, such as skull imagery, and making them beautiful.